Wednesday, March 25, 2009

twilight DVD out now!


The twilight DVD was out last march 20,2009 and to avoid the hustle i pre-orderd mine 2 weeks before the actual  release date and in addition to my hustle free ordering i get to have a big poster. I have been waiting for this to come out since last month when i learned about this especial edition DVD from stephenie meyers page (author of twilight).  Though i have to save money to buy the CD i still manage to buy them, though the only problem is that i also wanted to buy the directors journal book of twiligt i guess i just have to sacrifice.

The DVD is a 2 disc special the 1st disc contains the movie which is soooo great cause i had to watch it again and the 2nd one contains the special features like directors cut and music videos and lots more.  Thw 2 CDs are fantastic cause they didnt show alot in the actual movie but there are alot more.

...though i know some of you are not interested i encourage you to buy the DVD now...

..see yah got to go...

...xoxo...

...shopau23...

cervical cancer (killer disease)



Cervical cancer is malignant cancer of the cervix uteri or cervical area. It may present with vaginal bleeding but symptoms may be absent until the cancer is in its advanced stages. Treatment consists of surgery (including local excision) in early stages and chemotherapy and radiotherapy in advanced stages of the disease.

Classification:
The naming and classification of cervical carcinoma precursor lesions has changed many times over the 20th century. The World Health Organization classification system was descriptive of the lesions, naming them mild, moderate or severe dysphasia or carcinoma in situ (CIS). The term, Cervical Intraepithelial Neoplasia (CIN) was developed to place emphasis on the spectrum of abnormality in these lesions, and to help standardize treatment. It classifies mild dysplasia as CIN1, moderate dysplasia as CIN2, and severe dysplasia and CIS as CIN3. The most recent classification is the Bethesda System, which divides all cervical epithelial presursor lesions into 2 groups: Low-grade Squamous Intraepithelial Lesion (LSIL) and High-grade Squamous Intraepithelial Lesion (HSIL). LSIL corresponds to CIN1, and HSIL includes CIN2 and CIN3. More recently, CIN2 and CIN3 have been combined into CIN2/3.

Signs and symptoms:

The early stages of cervical cancer may be completely asymptomaticVaginal bleeding, contact bleeding or (rarely) a vaginal mass may indicate the presence of malignancy. Also, moderate pain during sexual intercourse and vaginal discharge are symptoms of cervical cancer. In advanced disease, metastases may be present in the abdomen, lungs or elsewhere.

Symptoms of advanced cervical cancer may include: loss of appetite, weight loss, fatigue, pelvic pain, back pain, leg pain, single swollen leg, heavy bleeding from the vagina, leaking of urine or faeces from the vagina, and bone fractures.

Causes:

Human papillomavirus infection
The most important risk factor in the development of cervical cancer is infection with a high-risk strain of human papillomavirus. The virus cancer link works by triggering alterations in the cells of the cervix, which can lead to the development of cervical intraepithelial neoplasia, which can lead to cancer.

Women who have many sexual partners (or who have sex with men or women who had many other partners) have a greater risk.

More than 150 types of HPV are acknowledged to exist (some sources indicate more than 200 subtypes).[12][13] Of these, 15 are classified as high-risk types (16, 18, 31, 33, 35, 39, 45, 51, 52, 56, 58, 59, 68, 73, and 82), 3 as probable high-risk (26, 53, and 66), and 12 as low-risk (6, 11, 40, 42, 43, 44, 54, 61, 70, 72, 81, and CP6108),[14] but even those may cause cancer. Types 16 and 18 are generally acknowledged to cause about 70% of cervical cancer cases. Together with type 31, they are the prime risk factors for cervical cancer.
Genital warts are caused by various strains of HPV which are usually not related to cervical cancer.

The medically accepted paradigm, officially endorsed by the American Cancer Society and other organizations, is that a patient must have been infected with HPV to develop cervical cancer, and is hence viewed as a sexually transmitted disease, but most women infected with high risk HPV will not develop cervical cancer. Use of condoms reduces, but does not always prevent transmission. Likewise, HPV can be transmitted by skin-to-skin-contact with infected areas. In males, HPV is thought to grow preferentially in the epithelium of the gland penis, and cleaning of this area may be preventative.

Cofactors
The American Cancer Society provides the following list of risk factors for cervical cancer: human papillomavirus (HPV) infection, smoking, HIV infection, chlamydia infection, dietary factors, hormonal contraception, multiple pregnancies, exposure to the hormonal drug diethylstilbestrol (DES) and a family history of cervical cancer. There is a possible genetic risk associated with HLA-B7.[citation needed]

Despite the development of an HPV vaccine, some researchers argue that routine neonatal male circumcision is an acceptable way to lower the risk of cervical cancer in their future female sexual partners. Others maintain that the benefits do not outweigh the risks and/or consider the removal of healthy genital tissue from infants to be unethical as it cannot be reasonably assumed that a male would choose to be circumcised. There has not been any definitive evidence to support the claim that male circumcision prevents cervical cancer, although some researchers say there is compelling epidemiological evidence that men who have been circumcised are less likely to be infected with HPV. However, in men with low-risk sexual behaviour and monogamous female partners, circumcision makes no difference to the risk of cervical cancer.

Diagnosis:

Biopsy procedures
While the pap smear is an effective screening test, confirmation of the diagnosis of cervical cancer or pre-cancer requires a biopsy of the cervix. This is often done through colposcopy, a magnified visual inspection of the cervix aided by using a dilute acetic acid (e.g. vinegar) solution to highlight abnormal cells on the surface of the cervix.

Further diagnostic procedures are loop electrical excision procedure (LEEP) and conization, in which the inner lining of the cervix is removed to be examined pathologically. These are carried out if the biopsy confirms severe cervical intraepithelial neoplasia.

Pathologic types:

Cervical intraepithelial neoplasia, the precursor to cervical cancer, is often diagnosed on examination of cervical biopsies by a pathologist. Histologic subtypes of invasive cervical carcinoma include the following: Though squamous cell carcinoma is the cervical cancer with the most incidence, the incidence of adenocarcinoma of the cervix has been increasing in recent decades.
squamous cell carcinoma (about 80-85%[citation needed])
adenocarcinoma (about 15% of cervical cancers in the UK)
adenosquamous carcinoma
small cell carcinoma
neuroendocrine carcinoma

Non-carcinoma malignancies which can rarely occur in the cervix include
melanoma
lymphoma

Note that the FIGO stage does not incorporate lymph node involvement in contrast to the TNM staging for most other cancers.

For cases treated surgically, information obtained from the pathologist can be used in assigning a separate pathologic stage but is not to replace the original clinical stage.

For premalignant dysplastic changes, the CIN (cervical intraepithelial neoplasia) grading is used.

Staging:

Cervical cancer is staged by the International Federation of Gynecology and Obstetrics (FIGO) staging system, which is based on clinical examination, rather than surgical findings. It allows only the following diagnostic tests to be used in determining the stage: palpation, inspection, colposcopy, endocervical curettage, hysteroscopy, cystoscopy, proctoscopy, intravenous urography, and X-ray examination of the lungs and skeleton, and cervical conization.

The TNM staging system for cervical cancer is analogous to the FIGO stage.
Stage 0 - full-thickness involvement of the epithelium without invasion into the stroma (carcinoma in situ)
Stage I - limited to the cervix 
• IA - diagnosed only by microscopy; no visible lesions 
• IA1 - stromal invasion less than 3 mm in depth and 7 mm or less in horizontal spread
• IA2 - stromal invasion between 3 and 5 mm with horizontal spread of 7 mm or less
• IB - visible lesion or a microscopic lesion with more than 5 mm of depth or horizontal spread of more than 7 mm 
• IB1 - visible lesion 4 cm or less in greatest dimension
• IB2 - visible lesion more than 4 cm
• Stage II - invades beyond cervix 
• IIA - without parametrial invasion, but involve upper 2/3 of vagina
• IIB - with parametrial invasion
• Stage III - extends to pelvic wall or lower third of the vagina 
• IIIA - involves lower third of vagina
• IIIB - extends to pelvic wall and/or causes hydronephrosis or non-functioning kidney
• IVA - invades mucosa of bladder or rectum and/or extends beyond true pelvis
• IVB - distant metastasis

Treatment:

Microinvasive cancer (stage IA) is usually treated by hysterectomy (removal of the whole uterus including part of the vagina). For stage IA2, the lymph nodes are removed as well. An alternative for patients who desire to remain fertile is a local surgical procedure such as a loop electrical excision procedure (LEEP) or cone biopsy.

If a cone biopsy does not produce clear margins, one more possible treatment option for patients who want to preserve their fertility is a trachelectomy. This attempts to surgically remove the cancer while preserving the ovaries and uterus, providing for a more conservative operation than a hysterectomy. It is a viable option for those in stage I cervical cancer which has not spread; however, it is not yet considered a standard of care, as few doctors are skilled in this procedure. Even the most experienced surgeon cannot promise that a trachelectomy can be performed until after surgical microscopic examination, as the extent of the spread of cancer is unknown. If the surgeon is not able to microscopically confirm clear margins of cervical tissue once the patient is under general anesthesia in the operating room, a hysterectomy may still be needed. This can only be done during the same operation if the patient has given prior consent. Due to the possible risk of cancer spread to the lymph nodes in stage 1b cancers and some stage 1a cancers, the surgeon may also need to remove some lymph nodes from around the uterus for pathologic evaluation.

A radical trachelectomy can be performed abdominally or vaginally and there are conflicting opinions as to which is better. A radical abdominal trachelectomy with lymphadenectomy usually only requires a two to three day hospital stay, and most women recover very quickly (approximately six weeks). Complications are uncommon, although women who are able to conceive after surgery are susceptible to preterm labor and possible late miscarriage. It is generally recommended to wait at least one year before attempting to become pregnant after surgery. Recurrence in the residual cervix is very rare if the cancer has been cleared with the trachelectomy.Yet, it is recommended for patients to practice vigilant prevention and follow up care including pap screenings/colposcopy, with biopsies of the remaining lower uterine segment as needed (every 3-4 months for at least 5 years) to monitor for any recurrence in addition to minimizing any new exposures to HPV through safe sex practices until one is actively trying to conceive.

Early stages (IB1 and IIA less than 4 cm) can be treated with radical hysterectomy with removal of the lymph nodes or radiation therapy. Radiation therapy is given as external beam radiotherapy to the pelvis and brachytherapy (internal radiation). Patients treated with surgery who have high risk features found on pathologic examination are given radiation therapy with or without chemotherapy in order to reduce the risk of relapse.

Larger early stage tumors (IB2 and IIA more than 4 cm) may be treated with radiation therapy and cisplatin-based chemotherapy, hysterectomy (which then usually requires adjuvant radiation therapy), or cisplatin chemotherapy followed by hysterectomy.

Advanced stage tumors (IIB-IVA) are treated with radiation therapy and cisplatin-based chemotherapy.

On June 15, 2006, the US Food and Drug Administration approved the use of a combination of two chemotherapy drugs, hycamtin and cisplatin for women with late-stage (IVB) cervical cancer treatment. Combination treatment has significant risk of neutropenia, anemia, and thrombocytopenia side effects. Hycamtin is manufactured by GlaxoSmithKline.


Prevention:


Awareness
According to the US National Cancer Institute's 2005 Health Information National Trends survey, only 40% of American women surveyed had heard of human papillomavirus (HPV) infection and only 20% had heard of its link to cervical cancer. In 2008 an estimated 3,870 women in the US will die of cervical cancer, and around 11,000 new cases are expected to be diagnosed.

In the UK, the recent death of reality TV star Jade Goody from cervical cancer, has dramatically raised awareness of HPV and cervical cancer among young women. Before her death, she started a campaign to have the age at which women in the UK are routinely screened lowered from 25 to 20.


Screening
The widespread introduction of the Papanicolaou test, or Pap smear for cervical cancer screening has been credited with dramatically reducing the incidence and mortality of cervical cancer in developed countries. Abnormal Pap smear results may suggest the presence of cervical intraepithelial neoplasia (potentially premalignant changes in the cervix) before a cancer has developed, allowing examination and possible preventive treatment. Recommendations for how often a Pap smear should be done vary from once a year to once every five years. The American Cancer Society (ACS) recommends that cervical cancer screening should begin approximately three years after the onset of vaginal intercourse and/or no later than twenty-one years of age. Guidelines vary on how long to continue screening, but well screened women who have not had abnormal smears can stop screening about age 65 (USPSTF) to 70 (ACS). If premalignant disease or cervical cancer is detected early, it can be monitored or treated relatively noninvasively, and without impairing fertility.

Until recently the Pap smear has remained the principal technology for preventing cervical cancer. However, following a rapid review of the published literature, originally commissioned by NICE , liquid based cytology has been incorporated within the UK national screening programme. Although it was probably intended to improve on the accuracy of the Pap test, its main advantage has been to reduce the number of inadequate smears from around 9% to around 1%. This reduces the need to recall women for a further smear.

Automated technologies have been developed with the aim of improving on the interpretation of smears, normally carried out by cytotechnicians. Unfortunately these on the whole have proven less useful; although the more recent reviews suggest that generally they may be no worse than human interpretation 

The HPV test is a newer technique for cervical cancer triage which detects the presence of human papillomavirus infection in the cervix. It is more sensitive than the pap smear (less likely to produce false negative results), but less specific (more likely to produce false positive results) and its role in routine screening is still evolving. Since more than 99% of invasive cervical cancers worldwide contain HPV, some researchers recommend that HPV testing be done together with routine cervical screening. But, given the prevalence of HPV (around 80% infection history among the sexually active population) others suggest that routine HPV testing would cause undue alarm to carriers.

HPV testing can reduce the incidence of grade 2 or 3 cervical intraepithelial neoplasia or cervical cancer detected by subsequent screening tests among women 32-38 years old according to a randomized controlled trial.[37] The relative risk reduction was 41.3%. For patients at similar risk to those in this study (63.0% had CIN 2-3 or cancer), this leads to an absolute risk reduction of 26%. 3.8 patients must be treated for one to benefit (number needed to treat = 3.8). Click here to adjust these results for patients at higher or lower risk of CIN 2-3.


Preventive Vaccination
Main article: HPV vaccine

Merck & Co. has developed a vaccine against four strains of HPV (6,11,16,18), called Gardasil. It is now on the market after receiving approval from the US Food and Drug Administration on June 8, 2006. Gardasil has also been approved in the EU.

GlaxoSmithKline has developed a vaccine called Cervarix which has been shown to be 100% effective in preventing HPV strains 16 and 18 and is effective for more than four years. Cervarix has been approved some places and is in approval process elsewhere.

Neither Merck & Co. nor GlaxoSmithKline invented the vaccine. The vaccine's key developmental steps are claimed by the National Cancer Institute in the US, the University of Rochester in New York, Georgetown University in Washington, DC, Dartmouth College in Hanover, NH, and the Queensland University in Brisbane, Australia. Both Merck & Co. and GlaxoSmithKline have licensed patents from all of these parties.

Together, HPV types 16 and 18 currently cause about 70% of cervical cancer cases. HPV types 6 and 11 cause about 90% of genital wart cases.

HPV vaccines are targeted at girls and women of age 9 to 26 because the vaccine only works if given before infection occurs; therefore, public health workers are targeting girls before they begin having sex. The use of the vaccine in men to prevent genital warts and interrupt transmission to women is initially considered only a secondary market.

The high cost of this vaccine has been a cause for concern. Several countries have or are considering programs to fund HPV vaccination.


Condoms
Condoms may also be useful in treating potentially precancerous changes in the cervix. Exposure to semen appears to increase the risk of precancerous changes (CIN 3), and use of condoms helps to cause these changes to regress and helps clear HPV. One study suggests that prostaglandin in semen may fuel the growth of cervical and uterine tumours and that affected women may benefit from the use of condoms.


Nutrition:
Fruits and vegetables
Higher levels of vegetable consumption were associated with a 54% decrease risk of HPV persistence. Consumption of papaya at least once a week was inversely associated with persistent HPV infection.


Vitamin A
There is weak evidence to suggest a significant deficiency of retinol can increase chances of cervical dysplasia, independently of HPV infection. A small (n~=500) case-control study of a narrow ethnic group (native Americans in New Mexico) assessed serum micro-nutrients as risk factors for cervical dysplasia. Subjects in the lowest serum retinol quartile were at increased risk of CIN I compared with women in the highest quartile.

However, the study population had low overall serum retinol, suggesting deficiency. A study of serum retinol in a well-nourished population reveals that the bottom 20% had serum retinol close to that of the highest levels in this New Mexico sub-population.


Vitamin C

Risk of type-specific, persistent HPV infection was lower among women reporting intake values of vitamin C in the upper quartile compared with those reporting intake in the lowest quartile.


Vitamin E
HPV clearance time was significantly shorter among women with the highest compared with the lowest serum levels of tocopherols, but significant trends in these associations were limited to infections lasting 120 days) was not significantly associated with circulating levels of tocopherols. Results from this investigation support an association of micronutrients with the rapid clearance of incident oncogenic HPV infection of the uterine cervix.

A statistically significantly lower level of alpha-tocopherol was observed in the blood serum of HPV-positive patients with cervical intraepithelial neoplasia. The risk of dysplasia was four times higher for an alpha-tocopherol level <>Folic acid
Higher folate status was inversely associated with becoming HPV test-positive. Women with higher folate status were significantly less likely to be repeatedly HPV test-positive and more likely to become test-negative. Studies have shown that lower levels of antioxidants coexisting with low levels of folic acid increases the risk of CIN development. Improving folate status in subjects at risk of getting infected or already infected with high-risk HPV may have a beneficial impact in the prevention of cervical cancer.

However, another study showed no relationship between foliate status and cervical dysplasia.


Carotenoids
Higher circulating levels of carotenoids were associated with a significant decrease in the clearance time of type-specific HPV infection, particularly during the early stages of infection (120 days) was not significantly associated with circulating levels of carotenoids.

The likelihood of clearing an oncogenic HPV infection is significantly higher with increasing levels of lycopenes.[54] A 56% reduction in HPV persistence risk was observed in women with the highest plasma [lycopene] concentrations compared with women with the lowest plasma lycopene concentrations. These data suggests that vegetable consumption and circulating lycopene may be protective against HPV persistence.


CoQ10
Women who had either CIN or cervical cancer had markedly lower levels of CoQ10 in their blood and in their cervical cells than the women who were healthy.[citation needed]


Fish oil
In a 1999 study, Docosahexaenoic acid inhibited growth of HPV16 immortalized cells.

Prognosis
Prognosis depends on the stage of the cancer. With treatment, the 5-year relative survival rate for the earliest stage of invasive cervical cancer is 92%, and the overall (all stages combined) 5-year survival rate is about 72%. These statistics may be improved when applied to women newly diagnosed, bearing in mind that these outcomes may be partly based on the state of treatment five years ago when the women studied were first diagnosed.

With treatment, 80 to 90% of women with stage I cancer and 50 to 65% of those with stage II cancer are alive 5 years after diagnosis. Only 25 to 35% of women with stage III cancer and 15% or fewer of those with stage IV cancer are alive after 5 years. 

According to the International Federation of Gynecology and Obstetrics, survival improves when radiotherapy is combined with cisplatin-based chemotherapy.

As the cancer metastasizes to other parts of the body, prognosis drops dramatically because treatment of local lesions is generally more effective than whole body treatments such as chemotherapy.

Interval evaluation of the patient after therapy is imperative. Recurrent cervical cancer detected at its earliest stages might be successfully treated with surgery, radiation, chemotherapy, or a combination of the three. Thirty-five percent of patients with invasive cervical cancer have persistent or recurrent disease after treatment.

Average years of potential life lost from cervical cancer are 25.3 (SEER Cancer Statistics Review 1975-2000, National Cancer Institute (NCI)). Approximately 4,600 women were projected to die in 2001 in the US of cervical cancer (DSTD), and the annual incidence was 13,000 in 2002 in the US, as calculated by SEER. Thus the ratio of deaths to incidence is approximately 35.4%.

Regular screening has meant that pre cancerous changes and early stage cervical cancers have been detected and treated early. Figures suggest that cervical screening is saving 5,000 lives each year in the UK by preventing cervical cancer.

About 1,000 women per year die of cervical cancer in the UK.

Epidemiology:

Worldwide, cervical cancer is the fifth most deadly cancer in women.[61] It affects about 16 per 100,000 women per year and kills about 9 per 100,000 per year.

In the United States, it is only the 8th most common cancer of women. In 1998, about 12,800 women were diagnosed in the US and about 4,800 died.[8] Among gynecological cancers it ranks behind endometrial cancer and ovarian cancer. The incidence and mortality in the US are about half those for the rest of the world, which is due in part to the success of screening with the Pap smear.[8] The incidence of new cases of cervical cancer in the United States was 7 per 100,000 women in 2004.

In the United Kingdom, the incidence is 9.1/100,000 per year (2005), similar to the rest of Northern Europe, and mortality is 3.1/100,000 per year (2006) (Cancer Research UK Cervical cancer statistics for the UK)[64]. With a 42% reduction from 1988-1997 the NHS implemented screening programme has been highly successful, screening the highest risk age group (25-49 years) every 3 years, and those ages 50-64 every 5 years.

In Canada, an estimated 1,300 women will be diagnosed with cervical cancer in 2008 and 380 will die.

Worldwide it is estimated that there are 473,000 cases of cervical cancer, and 253,500 deaths per year.

History:

400 BCE - Hippocrates: cervical cancer incurable
1925 - Hans Hinselmann: invented colposcope
1928 - Papanicolaou: developed Pap technique
1941 - Papanicolaou and Trout: Pap screening
1946 - Ayer: spatula to scrape the cervix
1976 - Zur Hausen and Gisam: found HPV DNA in cervical cancer and warts
1988 - Bethesda System for Pap results developed

Epidemiologists working in the early 20th century noted that:
Cervical cancer was common in female sex workers.
It was rare in nuns, except for those who had been sexually active before entering the convent. (Rigoni in 1841)
It was more common in the second wives of men whose first wives had died from cervical cancer.
It was rare in Jewish women.
In 1935, Syverton and Berry discovered a relationship between RPV (Rabbit Papillomavirus) and skin cancer in rabbits. (HPV is species specific and therefore cannot be transmitted to rabbits)

This led to the deduction that cervical cancer could be caused by a sexually transmitted agent. Initial research in the 1950s and 1960s put the blame on smegma (e.g. Heins et al 1958)[68] , but it wasn't until the 1970s that human papillomavirus (HPV) was identified. A description by electron microscopy was given earlier in 1949 and HPV-DNA was identified in 1963. It has since been demonstrated that HPV is implicated in virtually all cervical cancers.[4] Specific viral subtypes implicated are HPV 16, 18, 31, 45 and others

Citation:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cervical_cancer

(I posted this article to make women informed about this type of traitor disease. About how it can be prevented and how they can cure and prevent it. I wish for me and my mother not to have this certain illness because I have been a witness of what this could do to a person!)
i hope you enjoy reading this and while reading it you have been informed about this disease....
xoxo
shopau

Sunday, March 15, 2009

Love,Lust, Like

Have you ever wonder how you could classify the type of affection you have for your partner and how about the type of affection he/she has for you? If it is really love or are you just fooling yourself about thinking that what your partner feels about you is true love. I know that love couldn’t be classified nor even can it even be defined. No philosophers can describe it without feeling it. But who says you cannot define the kind of affection you feel and what kind type of affection that your partner has for you. Let us define it or put it on three types or category; Love, Lust and Like.

LOVE
“It is immortal, cannot be defined, given not asked for, it’s a strong kind of affection, a passionate feeling”. These are some of the many definition given about love but what and which definition is true and can be really felt?
If you can find time to talk to your partner on the phone or on YM or any kind of communication you can find. If you can really give it without asking any in return. If you could respect each other with out having doubt about anything. If nothing matters in the world but her/him. Then its must be love (?). A put a question mark is put in a parenthesis because some people might define it differently. 
If it is love that you are feeling then you must have felt the bond between the two of you that no matter how far away you are from each other you still feel connected no matter what. You are still eager to know how they feel. If you are still sensitive of the feelings your partner has. And every time you hear that he/she is not feeling good or if she is upset you want to know why. And you would want to hear their voice no matter what. You wouldn’t let the day pass without hearing it, because it keeps you calm and contended. If you feel like the two of you wouldn’t exist without each other.
If you feel this kind of affection it then it must be love. You see love is not about having the thought of how it would feel like if you’re with each other. The desire of having them in bed. The feeling that you could have a lot of gifts from him/her. It is shouldn’t be momentarily it should be immortal. It is not about the feeling that he/she see something different that is why they are eager to know you better by letting you know that they have fallen deeply in love with you. It is not about treating you like a business that you should be scheduled to have his/her affection. It is about learning your differences and setting them aside. Trusting and understanding each other. Paying respect to one another. Fulfilling each others needs. Filling up the holes in the heart of one another. It’s about sharing and giving without caring if you could have any in return. If you feel any of that then it might have been love!

LUST
“strong desire”, that is how you define lust. But in affection how does it count as one of the category? Could you really count it as affection? How can desire be a part of affection? These might be the questions you would like to ask your selves. But mind you this is a part of the category just because I felt like writing it but because it can be a real part of it and it is really a part of it.
Now you might ask what kind of desire could lead such affection? Must it be sex? Now this might be the question you would like to ask what kind of lust could drive into affection. And also mind you it’s not always about sex but it might be.Strong desires are not always about sex it is can also be about curiosity that could lead to like to lust. If you met a different person with a different perspective on things than people you know. This things that could interest you and the more you get to know that person the more you become curios or interested about her/him. This feeling could lead into a desire rather than love. These are two different thing because your desires can change and when it changes you would also change the affection you have for your partner when love can never change!About the sex thing being involve yes it can be just a desire you might just tell your partner that you love them just for the satisfaction that you have when you have sex with them or for the desire that you have for having your partner in bed. This such thing is only lust and never love. This such affection never last it shall fade in time.

LIKE
“to have desire”, how those like differ from lust? How can it be part of the types of affection? This might be the question you have in mind while reading this article, but yes like is different from lust and it is also a part of the type of affection we have.

Like is different from lust because in like desire is not that strong and lust it is more intense and strong as said in its definition. But what really makes it different is how they are applied and how they become affection. 
If you don’t seem to care so much about you’re partner. If you are only fascinated about his abilities and capabilities. If you are only affected about his/her look. If looks are the only thing that matter to you. If you cant find time to spend with them to hear their voice or to see their face. If you are not to eager to talk to them. Then it must not be love nor lust. 
You only desire them for your good. You You only think of spending a short time with them and nothing about them really matters. You only desire them not love them. Maybe because are jealous of them or you just want them for awhile because your curios to know them and curiosity is different from eagerness. If you never really love them but you making them feel that you are then you should stop doing what you do. 
Act differently than you should. This kind of thing when felt by others and not you are hurtful to you especially if you are in love with them when they don’t feel the same for you. 

Like can never last and if it did it would only take a short time to fade!

So what type or classification do you think your affection and your partner’s affection count? Do you the see the similarities in the types o feeling you have if you did can you classify the type of feeling/affection you have?

You be careful your partners or your affection might not be LOVE, it might only be LUST or worst just LIKE.
i know what kind of affection me and my boy has for each other
...see you on my next post!....
..hope you enjoy reading this!!...
...XOXO...
♥pau♥








Friday, March 6, 2009

...Cyber Love!...define it...learn from it..

...cyber love,Internet love,chat mate in love, what ever it is, it is still about finding love over some chat room you and suddenly fell in love with them. You might be wondering how this things differ from text mate love affair? i actually do know. Well i would lie to you if i say i have never experience any of this, well ofcourse yes i have experience text mates and chat mates thingy.

When i was in HS i did a little experiment in texting, i mean having text mates. Several time have i texted people inviting them to be my Friends most of them are girls and some are boys(not that i don't have friends way back in HS, just for fun though!). But what text mates and chat mates differ is that texting is only a national way of communicating while in chatting you can meet international people, people who lives abroad. And in texting you can meet each other right away(if your location is not that far from each other) and in chatting you cant easily meet because of the distance as i said your from different countries(unless you live in the same country) and the only way of communicating is through email and YM of course.

It is sad how other people use this kind of communication as to capture someones affection just to use them(to gain other countries citizenship, making them be their financial wall). Sometimes it is never love that they want to be with the people they met in the chat room.

When you meet other people from other country you tend to have knowledge of how their culture works there and how you could approach people there and what type of living do they have. But do you really want to know this information because your in love or because your just curious?

It is hard to find decent boys and girls in the internet, some wants sexual talks and others are just doing business. but when you find one(knowing that how it works in the internet) can you possibly put so much trust in that person that you have already fallen in love with them? (i mean completely) or do you still tend to know each other better before anything happens?

I met alot of guys already in the internet, and being involve in the internet i notice that some (im not saying all) boys there wants to be in bed with the girls already and if you don't have any sexual experience they teach you on line(trust me i know). What some people doesn't know is that this is already a kind of sexual abuse, they are giving knowledge that you tend not to know. I have been into one chat room lately and one of this guys that i have chatted with is an Indian who told me that he is masturbating (yes you heard me right masturbating) and you want to know why he is doing that because he saw my picture in face book and he told me he just got hot! (piece of advice don't give any personal info unless you know the person) me being a stupid girl felt not praise but offended because damn that pic in my face book account only shows my face and suddenly some guy wants to masturbate when they saw it!?(what the hell). That gave me the idea that no guys should be trusted when you meet them in the net!
I have been holding on that thought until i met this guy from the Internet chatting (i know it sounds crazy things like this coming from someone who literary doesn't trust guys!). He is so nice, caring , sweet and (i sure hope) knows how to commit!,loves me(hopefully), adorable,respectful(towards me atleast)... And he is also willing to learn the cultures and tradition of my country just so he would be knoweledgable. Everytime we talk it seems like both of us are wishing that we are together so that we can hold eachother and tell each other how much we love each other! cause everytime he talks to me he always remind me how much he adores me and loves me! And im sure hope he is really british not one of those Indian guys who only wants to have sexual intercourse with the girls they met!...Im sure eager to meet him when he visits me here and hopefully he would meet my family too!
I know i should be carefull in falling in love with the guy i have just met in the chat room, because from all the relationship that i have notice those who met their guys and girls in the internet brakes up easily. I mean yeah they get married leave to have a better life but not all ends up well. Some of them ends up in a tragedy where girls get killed.
...I sure hope that dosent happen to me and my boy....=]
...well thankz for reading hope you learn things!
...watch out for my new entry....
...XOXO pau....